You Owe It To Yourself

Sometime we can become our own worst enemy. We can have great intentions to do great things or perform on a higher level and for some reason we find a way to under achieve. We limit our self with a ocean worth of excuses on why we can not have the life we want to have or do the things that we may want to do. Only to turn 0n the television, read in a magazine, or turn on the radio and here one of our favorite entertainment figures doing what we feel like is making it. What is the difference between them and myself, you ask? I would say they had the fortitude to go after what they wanted to accomplish and not be a victim of their own second guessing. Notice I did not say other people or haters, I said we can be our own worst enemy. You can be the one telling yourself that you can not do what it is you are setting out to do. You are the one coming up with excuses. Instead you should get up off your ass and go after what you desire in life. With GOD and the ability to dream the sky is truly the limit. You all go head and share that! Two fingers!!!!

Excuse My Mistakes

Hey on that last post I had some typing mistakes. At work trying to do ten things at once. This will not happen again.

Self Check

From time to time I do my own self evaluation in my relationship. I encourage you to do the same. What I learned it that I need to do what I call step my "love game" up. I believe in being pro active. So I made a pledge to work on my romance activities as far as being more consistent. I always what to keep my lady smiling so I need to bring more romance to the table on a regular basis. Now enough about me and my business. Like I stated earlier, I encourage everyone to do their own self evaluation in whatever area of your relationship that you feel needs work. I believe to often we spend so much time pointing the finger at our spouse or significant other that we forget that we play just as much a role in what may be wrong then we really want to take credit for. So remember when you point the finger at someone, know that four more fingers are pointing back at you. Peace!!!!

We Have to Do Better

I teach P.E. at Davis Hills Middle School. We just returned from spring break today I was talking to my some of my students while we were walking the track. I was asking them what they did over the break, roughly about thirty throughout the day. Maybe about four of them even left the city/state The other twenty-six, and I'm sure countless others did not even leave home. I heard some even say that they were glad school was back in because they were so bored. I say all of this to say that what I noticed that due to whatever circumstances so many of our children are not being exposed to other surroundings like they may need to be. I know that in these trying times it is difficult to go on trips for a whole week but we as parents need to find a way to show our children that it is a whole world that exist outside of there neighborhood. Simple day trips to Tennessee or Georgia just for them to see the country side and get an opportunity to smell some different air. I told my wife and I made a promise today that I want to make it a priority to expose my son to the as many other places outside of Huntsville Alabama as I possibly can. I encourage other parents to do the same. No matter where you live.

It Tourney Time

Pick your brackets wisely and do not bet with your heart.

Learn to Be Supportive

Ladies if you have a man that goes to work everyday, provides, take care of his responsibilities and comes home at night. Then shut up and quit complaining. Support that a man. It is difficult enough to be a man period. So support is especially needed from a man's wife or significant other. There is no greater feeling in the world than knowing that your wife or life partner has your back one hundred percent. That will make a man feel like he can move a mountain.
Now I am not saying get behind every hair brain scheme that we may come up with. I am saying that if your man comes to you wanting to try a new endeavor that will not take away from your finances and lifestyle, then support that man. Often time we just need to know that you all are in our corner to give that honest opinion and encouragement. So instead of always shooting ideas down or just outright being negative.......See title! Peace!!!!

I Don't Think We Will Mind

Ladies believe this or not we as men do not mind if you take it upon yourself to initiate things in the "physical" area. Trust me we will not mind. As I talk to men who are married or are in long term relationships they have all said at one time or another that would like it if their spouse or significant other would invite us (men) to have sex more often. Most of the time if you look at it men are 90% of the time initiating sexual activity. Honestly, it is a turn on to me when my wife gives me the word that she wants my body. It becomes a sexual stimulant. I love it, it is very very sexy to me, I even encourage her to do it more often. I have also learned that some of my fellow husbands and boyfriends love it also. If you did not know it ladies, men love to be desired just like women do. No I am not trying to get in touch with my female side, I am just being honest. Try it out ladies, it my benefit the both of you.

Sorry, But I Have Missed You

Hello guys and girls. Sorry that I have not posted anything in a couple of days, been busy working on my honeydo list. Plus its spring break, so work with me. But I will post something new shortly.

The Understanding

In order for relationships to work people need to gain a clear and concise understanding of their mate. Now I am giving the male perspective, because well, I am a man. As far as we go, men are simple creatures. Men do not need a whole lot to keep them happy. Food, consistent sex, a little conversation, and some space and you will find that your man is always smiling. At least till the bills come in, but all other bases are covered.
Ladies think about it. What man does not love to come home to a home cooked meal or a plate in the microwave. Try inviting your man to a night filled with mind numbing sex and see what happens. Have a conversation that does not involve complaining and see how smooth things develop. When your man says that he wants to go with the fellas and watch a game simply say "o.k. darling have a great time." By having a great since of understanding you will find that your relationship has less and less arguing. It will become very blissful. But be warned, if you do all these things for your man and he is not being the provider, protector, and help mate that he should be then guess what, YOU ARE BEING AN IDIOT!! And you are being played. Two words....... I'M GONE!!!

Allow Me to Introduce Myself

Due to my excitement of starting my first blog, I neglected to formally introduce myself. I am P.J. an apsiring writer. The blog gives me an opportunity to express my opinion and give insight on topics ranging from relationships to sports. I will also post motivational or thought provoking entries. I want this blog to become the next big thing so please feel free to join and post any comments that you may have about my writing. So tune in and fasten your seatbelt.

It Is Not O.K.

It is not o.k. to be mediocre. We as people have begun to settle for less then the best. As I teach and coach today's youth, I have found out that their parents do not challenge their ability as much as they need to. It has become acceptable to allow our children to just be average. We need to get back challenging our children to be better and strive for excellence. If you look at the quality of work and service just in everyday life we are not teaching our youth to have pride and always display your best at all times. If you have children start today by pushing them to strive to be the best at whatever career path that they may choose.

50/50 Love

There is no such thing as 50/50 love. In a relationship you will never have a situation were things are equal. Why, because you will find that someone in the relationship will be giving more than the other. As for the male perspective, I truly believe that a man loves harder than a woman. Reason being, it takes a man longer to commit, and once he does his love is stronger and harder. Plus most relationships are designed to cater to the female anyway. Some ladies take advantage of that, which in return puts most things in there favor. Think about it.

We Need to Be More Thankful

People need to stop complaining and recognize the blessings we have. One tends to spend entirely to much time complaining about what we do not have, instead of being more thankful for what we do have. I am guilty of it and we all are. I have begun to make an honest effort to not go out of my way to be negative and begin to focus on the positive. Here are a couple of ways of thinking that have helped keep a positive attitude.

1. Instead of saying: "I hate my job!"
Say: "I'm so glad that I have a job."

2. Instead of saying: "I'm not making enough money."
Say: "I need to do a better job with managing the money that I have."

3. Instead of saying: "I want a bigger home."
Say: "I am so glad that I have a home.

Simply be thankful for the what we have. Its time to be resourceful, and tighten our belts and be more mindful of our lifestyle and how wasteful we can be. Learn to use what we have and be glad with it. We as people can get threw these trying times with prayer, being more responsible, and being thankful for what we have.