It Takes Two

http://www. facebook.comRelationships take work. Many times in order to have a long productive relationship both parties have to work hard at maintaining it. To be honest being in a relationship is a full time job. It takes work, work from both parties. We hear to often about one or the other(male/female) complaining that they always feel as if they are the only one doing anything to maintain the relationship. Now that does not mean that since you feel like its just you doing all the work that you should not put any energy in still trying to make things work out. We as people (male/female) tend to give up to easy, we do not have any patience any more. With break up and divorce being so common or dare I say the "norm", out of convince we are throwing in the towel on love. Its hard living with and loving someone else and we all go through what seems to be a selfish act from time to time. How can we fix this problem you may ask? Well I say do all that you can do to improve you situation. Try to communicate, and work out the problem in a civilized manner. Not yelling but in a direct tone that will get your point across. Be honest and up about whatever concerns or complaint you may have. Not nagging but discussing your issues. Now if that does not work do not rule out counseling. Sometime you may need a mediator to help monitor the dialogue. I am simply saying do everything in you being to make things work. Lead by example and encourage and demand the same effort that you put in and do not believe for a minute that you are above reproach. So be realistic and remember be patient and do not be so quick to throw in the towel on love.